pI have never been much of a writer. I didn't mind English at school and I very much love reading but actually getting my feelings out of my head and onto paper was always a bit of a challenge. So it has come as a bit of a surprise to me recently that I have these poems in my head that I just need to write down. I don't need to think about them, they are just there. I don't know why but I feel that I must share my words and I hope they spark conversations and rouse feelings the people who read them. Some are positive and some are not so. I will continue to share them on my blog and am very open to discussing them with anyone so dont be shy about messaging me if you feel you would like to chat about any of the content. Below are 3 poems I have written recently. Keep you eyes open for more coming soon!
Writing your birth plan
Firstly I think it is important to think about why we write birth plans/preferences. I have heard some people say things like “ birth never goes to plan so it’s a waste of time” or “ You don’t know how you will cope so don’t bother, just go with the flow” . My reply to those that think that is, the power of a birth plan is not in ensuring everything goes exactly to plan, but in the process of writing the plan. During that process you will become informed about your options, learn about your rights and have important discussions with your significant other. You will find out what is important to you surrounding your birth and may have the opportunity to explore those feelings and the experiences behind them.
What does a doula do? Why do I need one? I have my husband/wife/partner/mum, why do I need a doula as well? Are doulas worth the money? These are questions that I hear more often then I expected. Surely birth just happens? What preparation is really needed? More time and energy is often put into choosing a buggy or picking out colours for the baby’s bedroom than preparing for the birth. If you think about how much time and money is put into a wedding day and how much time and money people put into the day of birth, it is such a huge difference, but why? Is your wedding day that much more important than the day you give birth to your child? What about the long term benefits of a positive birth experience? Not only for the parents but for the baby as well, how many parents are aware that birth and early parenting choices can have a life long impact on their child? Does that fact make birth preparation a higher priority?
This is a repost form March 2017..........
I have just got home from the most amazing weekend! The Doula UK conference 2017 was held in Manchester (which is a long long way from Cornwall!). The line up was impressive, Ina May Gaskin, Hollie Mcnish, Kerstin uvnäs Moberg and more! So now I am home, I am starting to debrief the mountain of information that I received during the weekend. There will be more in depth blogs to come in the coming weeks but here is a basic overview of the main points I learnt……….
Hormones have got a pretty bad rep. They get blamed for mood swings and pregnancy symptoms and a lot of people assume they just negatively affect women. However, they are pretty amazing and are responsible for a lot of positive things that happen in our body throughout our lives, nothing more important than their role in birth though. Here we are going to take a look at the four main hormones involved in birth, Oxytocin, Endorphin's, Adrenaline and Prolactin. You may have heard of some of these, you may have heard of all of them or none of them. They each have their part to play and during an undisturbed birth they will facilitate the dilation of the cervix and the birth of the baby through foetal ejection reflex, they will help relieve pain and allow you to cope with contractions, they will kick start milk production and facilitate bonding with your baby.
Repost of an original blog I wrote in October 2016...........
All birth is beautiful. A brand new soul starting their journey on this earth. A woman’s body completing it’s most primal purpose. But sometimes you witness a birth that stands alone, that is raw and powerful and leaves you in awe of the beauty of a birthing woman, completely submitting to her body and blossoming into a birthing goddess. Watching a man support and comfort the woman he loves, watching him journey through a million emotions, seeing his face as he catches his baby as she is birthed into his capable and safe hands.
Here is a repost of the blog about my very first birth as a doula. It had a massive impact on me and really cemented that this was exactly what I wanted to do with my life.
So I used to blog but that all got a bit messed up and I have started a new blog! I feel that a lot of what I had to say on the old blog is still relevant today, maybe even more so. So over the next few days I will be reposting some of the posts. Some of you may have read them before but maybe you can read them again with new eyes, some of you wont have seen them before so don't be afraid to let me know what you think!
I am planning on doing my best to be completely open in this blog. I will bare my inner workings and probably share things I haven't been brave enough to share before. I am doing this because I think here in Cornwall we can feel a bit disconnected, from each other and from the rest of society. The birth community is so spread out and under such pressure we do not get a lot of time for networking and connecting. I truly feel if we could connect as a community and work together on the improvements needed in the birth world we could make a huge change! To be able to come together and trust each other we need honesty so I am stepping out and giving my honest thoughts and feeling and hopes and fears as I try to navigate my way through the world as a doula, as a woman, as a wife, as a mother. Follow me along the way to experience the twists and turns and highs and lows!
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Much love x